This is a beautiful, heartbreaking essay. I shared it on Twitter — for whatever Twitter is worth anymore.
BTW: You have links pointing to Pamela Paul's July & October transphobic columns in the NYT, but if someone does not want to read the transphobia itself & would rather read explanations of why her columns were transphobic (or if they need to send that explanation to someone else), I've already done those breakdowns.
July (12-minute read): https://tuckerlieberman.medium.com/pamela-paul-nyt-transphobia-1895d87850cb
October (15-minute read): https://tuckerlieberman.medium.com/pamela-paul-transphobia-queerphobia-new-york-times-c17062eafb23