Yeah, it's one thing to ponder whether the spelling, punctuation, etc. of something like "cis woman," "cis-woman," "cis woman" has real meaning that should be important to you as well as to people who are cis and whether it affects whatever you're trying to communicate... It's another thing when bullies who haven't really thought about it and don't really care about it are trying to regulate how you talk back to their bullying. Of course they want to stop us from talking back. It's part of the bullying.