Related to who we are, anyway—this is true. If someone has a specific problem in their life, especially if they tell me what it is, I can help them, e.g., if they're out of apples, I can share my apple. But if their "problem" is that I am who I am, I can't do anything to help them, except to point out that their "problem" is illusory, and if they stop thinking and talking about me and wishing I'd be different, their "problem" will go away. Unfortunately so often they phrase their thoughts in a complicated way, like "I'm hungry, and if only you could behave a little differently, apples would fall from the tree into my lap," and then we have to figure out if they really need an apple or if they really just don't like who we are.