Tucker Lieberman
1 min readAug 25, 2024

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Probably. Some of my circles have been mostly men — for example, two-thirds of the students in my philosophy major (class of '02) were men, and the sci-fi group I currently attend is mostly men. But I don't do macho stuff (sports, drinking) as I have no desire to and it would be a bit unsafe for me to hang out with homophobic men as I don't reliably pass for a straight man. Other spaces I've frequented have tended to be more gender-balanced, and my friendships overall seem to be a mix of men and women. Once I worked for a social service agency that was almost entirely women staff, and my current work team is two women and me.

But if you mean, have I been socialized in feminine spaces as a woman, nope, because I haven't passed as a woman since turning 18. I had that female socialization as a girl, but it abruptly ended when I became an adult. The college dorms were co-ed, but each separate room was same-gender, so in the dorm I showed up as a man rooming with another man, and that's how I show up in my gender since then. I socialize with women (of course) but I'm not socialized as one, except for carrying the memory/habits of having been socialized as a girl.

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Tucker Lieberman
Tucker Lieberman

Written by Tucker Lieberman

Cult classic. Author of the novel "Most Famous Short Film of All Time." Editor for Prism & Pen and Identity Current. tuckerlieberman.com

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