I didn't call you any five-letter word beginning with a "b----". That's a word you're trying to introduce to this conversation between you and me, but I’m not interested in saying it. Maybe someone else said it, but I did not.

I never questioned the truth of the story you shared. Maybe someone else did, but I did not.

You say I am “making this a big deal” and that “gender is not a big issue" to you, but you’re the one who wrote the essay. I simply replied to it with my difference of opinion.

You say I “seem wanna remove” your ability to have your own opinion on this website. To the contrary: I read your story and replied to it with my own opinion. In no way does my interaction with you prevent you from sharing your thoughts on this website.

In your original essay, you said: “I’m not gonna support all the fights and rights y’all fight for.” I replied by saying: “LGBTQ rights are about having space in society to exist safely, freely, and with dignity. Chipping away at some piece of those essential human needs isn't friendship.” You replied by saying: “I’ll still stay be friend with someone in LGBTQ without fully supporting all they want specially if it contradicts to christian standars i grew up in.” I said: “I don't know why you'd even want to be friends with someone” if indeed you have such a fundamental disagreement with (or dislike of) a key part of their identity. Then, in your latest comment, you changed the subject to your personal sexual "preference." That isn't what we were talking about. I wasn't talking about judging your moral character based on your sexual preference; I was talking about the implications of you not supporting someone else's rights to be who they are.

I didn't imply you're hostile with other religions or ethnicities. Rather, I chose to assume that you are NOT hostile, and therefore I assume you already understand why it is contrary to true friendship to reject a core part of someone's identity and not fully support their rights. You already know that this applies to traits like religion and ethnicity. I’m just reminding you that the same basic principle applies to gender too. In a sense, you are free to reject someone’s identity and not support their rights, but in making that choice, you are choosing not to be a true friend to them.

If you don’t “accept“ who someone is, you don’t really “respect” them. If you don’t “like” who they are, you aren’t really their “friend.” You may be polite or show them courtesy, but that’s surface level; it isn’t true respect or true friendship. You seem to be claiming that, when someone (like me) points this out, it crosses your personal boundary. I don't really understand how that works. I am stating what I think is an obvious fact, and this statement seems to cross your boundary. (If your boundary is that you do not wish to talk to me at all, I can comply with that request.)

I do not want to “force” you to “accept and agree” to someone else’s identity. I don’t even know how I would do that. I do think that if the issue presents itself this way to you, it indicates that an important ingredient (acceptance) is missing from your friendship with that person. I'm giving you my perspective as a gay and trans person that I couldn't be true friends with someone who didn't accept me.

You are, of course, free to type whatever words you like about anyone, but depending on exactly what you say, your words might suggest that you don’t actually respect them and can’t be true friends with them.