I also got a "please be patient" comment several days ago, not from a leftist activist who was deciding who's first and last in line for rights, but from a person defending the obliviousness of someone who'd never had a diversity 101 training in, like, anything. A cis person was like: *I've never met a trans person, and I'm confused when I hear words I don't understand, so why can't I just invent words that make sense to me and encourage other cis to use these same words when they discuss trans people? No work has ever been done! I am the first person to consider doing this work!* And I was like: *Nope, making up random words to refer to someone you think is trans is a non-starter.* Another cis person jumped in and came to the first cis person's defense: *Please be patient and have more empathy with people who are learning.* (Person was not learning. Person was making shit up & decreeing it policy. Would-be teacher showed up to help & was told to be patient with oblivious person, i.e., never say "no" to a cis person.)