How interesting. Indeed, they are trying to distract us and impose their narrative on us.

Today (though it's been percolating a while) I wrote an article making a similar point, though I wrote it in a different way than you did.

https://tuckerlieberman.medium.com/boring-transphobic-rhetorical-moves-243cb3d91d1c

In your article, where you say "performativity is ultimately harmful," I believe (from context) you refer to allyship that's merely performative (i.e., without real substance or impact) rather than to the performativity of living in one's own gender? In my article, I brought up performativity in the latter sense, which may be why I initially misread yours.